Retrograde Realness: What It Actually Means (and How to Survive It)

You’ve probably heard someone sigh, “It’s Mercury retrograde,” while side-eyeing a broken phone or missed email. But let’s be real...what is a retrograde, really? And why does it feel like everything goes sideways when it hits?

Let’s break it down and give you the real on how to not just survive retrograde, but own it.

What Is Retrograde?

In astrology, a planet goes “retrograde” when it appears to move backward in the sky. It’s not actually reversing, it’s just an optical illusion caused by the Earth’s movement. But symbolically? Retrograde is a powerful time of reflection, revision, and rerouting.

Mercury retrograde is the most talked about, and for good reason; it governs communication, travel, and tech. But don’t sleep on Venus retrograde (relationships and beauty), Mars retrograde (passion and action), or Pluto retrograde (deep transformation). Each one has its own energy and lessons.

Why Does It Feel Like Chaos?

Because we’re a go-go-go society that values speed over stillness, retrograde energy can feel uncomfortable. It slows us down and forces us to look inward. Emails get lost, exes resurface, and your favorite playlist might randomly vanish into the void. But it’s not punishment; it’s a cosmic invitation to pause.

Retrogrades expose what’s not working. That toxic situationship? That project you’re forcing? Retrograde energy will bring the truth to the surface; ready or not.

How to Survive (and Thrive)

1. Don’t Panic, Reflect. Use this time to reassess your goals, your boundaries, and your communication. Journal. Meditate. Reconnect with yourself.

2. Double-Check Everything. Back up your files. Reread that text before you hit send. Leave earlier for appointments. Retrograde loves to test your patience.

3. Release, Don’t React. Instead of reacting emotionally to mishaps or miscommunication, try to observe. Ask yourself: What is this teaching me? Respond with grace, not chaos.

4. Protect Your Peace. Ground yourself with rituals. Light your incense. Take your spiritual baths. Unplug. Retrograde is the perfect time to retreat and recalibrate.

5. Remember: This Too Shall Pass. Retrogrades don’t last forever. They’re cosmic pitstops; not roadblocks. And when they’re over, you’ll emerge wiser, more aligned, and ready to move forward with intention.

Retrograde isn’t here to ruin your life; it’s here to realign it. Tap into the stillness. Reclaim your time. And remember: the stars may influence, but you hold the power.